(Photo: Stuart Mudie) The truth is, ‘being challenging’ doesn’t mean putting up obstacles he has to get over.
It means being exceptional enough that he wants to live up to your standard. But you’re being honest in a way that directly says “I don’t value something you invested your heart and soul into”, which translates in his mind to: “I don’t value what you do.” Whether you’re just trying to act unfazed, or are spilling your brutally honest opinion, this is only going to make a guy feel worth less than his best around you and drive him want to be around someone who actually values his accomplishments.
Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. So in the name of clearing up some confusion, here are the top 3 mistakes women make when trying to be challenging, and what to do instead: Mistake No. What To Do Instead: Tell him what kind of traits you if you have reservations about the particular field, the least you can do is show that you admire the qualities it displays, whether it’s the pursuit of knowledge, the bravery to follow his passion, or simply the fact that he’s pushing himself to achieve something difficult.